Ready for Black Friday?

Top 10 Tips to Getting the Best Bargains on Black Friday

By Donna L Montaldo, About.com Guide

 http://couponing.about.com/od/seasonalsavingszone/p/blackfriday.htm?nl=1

Black Friday - The Biggest Shopping Day of the Year:

 

Black Friday falls on the day after Thanksgiving and has earned the reputation of being the busiest shopping day of the year. The name was adopted from an accounting term - red ink denotes a negative profit margin, where as "in the black" denotes a positive profit margin. Many retailers make or break their sales goals between Thanksgiving and Christmas, with the season kicking off on the Friday after Thanksgiving, hence the name "Black Friday." 

 

1. Check Out the Ads:

 

Your local Thanksgiving Day newspaper will be stuffed like your Thanksgiving turkey with ads, coupons, and circulars. This will be your number one source to local Black Friday savings. It will also help you organize your day to maximize savings, since many stores offer special discounts that are time specific. Example: Receive an extra 10 percent off if you shop before 11 a.m.

 

2. Do Your Research Before Friday:

 

If you are hoping to scoop up a deal on Friday on a big-ticket item, go ahead and get your research out of the way as soon as possible. A bad product is a bad deal no matter how cheap it costs. Being knowledgeable about the products you want to buy will help you avoid being sucker-punched with loud advertising for poor products. About.com is chocked full of buying advice on a wide variety of products from professionals who have the knowledge to help you make good decisions.

 

3. Compare Prices:

 

Utilize price-comparison Internet shopping sites such as PriceGrabber.com to assist you in comparing product prices. Compare the "options" included with the product. Some retailers will low-ball the advertised price on a stripped down product, and then you will be charged extra for the necessary parts that will make the product perform as expected. A good example of this is often seen with super low-priced computer printers that come without the cable (cord) or printer ink.

 

4. Look for Early Bird Shopper Discounts:

 

The Early Bird Shopper will be the real winner on Black Friday. Stores offering early-day shopper specials usually run the deals from 5 a.m. until 11 a.m. and with no "rain checks," which means once they run out of the products, you are out of luck. Scanning the ads and routing your trip based on your buying priorities will be important with the time-sensitive deals that will be offered.

• List of Store Hours and Early Bird Sales on Black Friday

5. Beat the Crowds with Night Owl Discounts on Thanksgiving:

 

Internet shoppers can beat the early birds by shopping online in the pre-dawn hours of Black Friday. Many retailers will be posting their Black Friday specials, which can be ordered online and picked-up at your local store. Special "Web only" deals will also be available starting as early as Thanksgiving eve. Many of the the aggressive outlet malls and factory stores will be opening Thursday at midnight, with early bird promotions in hopes of capturing your dollars before the competition has opened.

• List of Black Friday Midnight and Early Bird Sales at U.S. Outlet Malls

6. Bring the Ads:

 

Many stores offer a "lowest-price" guarantee; however you may be required to produce a copy of the exact product being advertised for less. Most local retailers will not meet Internet prices even when the product is advertised on the same company's website, but it cannot hurt to try. Print the Web page that details the product and shows the advertised price. It may give you additional bargaining power and push the sales person into waiving other charges such as assembly fees.

 

8. Know the Store Policies:

 

Knowing the store policies on returns can help you determine where to buy. A previous trend of extending "return days" during the holidays is being seen less this year. Many retailers are including restocking fees and shorter return deadlines. Almost all of the major retail chains have clamped down on requiring receipts for returns and exchanges, and many keep a database of individuals who tend to abuse return policies. If you get onto an "abuse" list, prepare yourself to be turned down.

• The Small Print On Return and Free Shipping Policies
  
• The Hidden Costs of Restocking Fees
  

9. Ask for Gift Receipts:

 

Gift receipts generally include a description of the item purchased but do not disclose the price paid. Including gift receipts inside the gift box will make returns or exchanges easier for the gift recipient. Without proof-of-purchase, the recipient may be turned down for returning or exchanging the item or risk receiving an exchange for the current selling price of the item.

• Keep That Receipt!
  
• Tips on Returning Gifts Hassle Free
  

Since many retailers begin permanently slashing prices as soon as Black Friday is over, the difference between what you pay for a gift during December and what it sells for in January can be significant. Including a gift-receipt should help insure a hassle-free return experience for gift recipients.

10. Saying "Charge It" Can Pay Off

Obviously, there is no bargain in running up high credit card bills and paying big interest rates, however, with proper spending disciplines intact, using the right charge card can be of value to consumers. Many credit card companies entice consumers with free benefits, which include extended free warranties, return protection and sale price protection.

• Warranty Coverage - Your credit card company may offer to double or triple a manufacturer's warranty for free on a product you purchase - a good option instead of purchasing a service contract that costs money and has a shorter duration period.


• Return Protection - A credit card company may guarantee a refund on a product up to 90 days where as the store may not. This is becoming particularly more important as retailers stiffen the allotted return days.


• Sale Price Protection - Some of the credit card companies will offer this protection and refund you the difference if a product you buy is marked down further than the price you paid within a certain time frame (usually 60 days).

An enormous amount of advertising, locally and online, can be confusing and nearly paralyzing to the Black Friday bargain hunter. To maximize the benefits of hitting the stores on a day where there are big crowds and a better deal around every corner, developing a plan and doing preliminary research will help insure that the day is a shopping success.

Have fun saving money while you shop!

My Thoughts

Just reading through the ten steps made my head reel.  What more the actual bargain hunting?  But then, that's what it's supposed to do, i think.  Make our heads reel.  Well, just take heed.  Let your needs (and your budget) make decisions for you.

How To Survive Plane Rides With Small Kids

How To Survive Plane Rides With Small Kids
By Teresa Plowright, About.com Guide

Rich parents, poor parents, young, old, strict, slack: all are alike in dreading long plane rides with babies and toddlers. Relax -- it probably won't be as bad as you fear. Preparation, however, is key.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: Variable
Here's How:

    Select seats in advance, and remember that kids can't sit in the exit rows. Find out if your flight offers pre-boarding for families with babies.
    Babies under two can sit in your lap, but many parents prefer to bring along a carseat. Often, airlines will discount a seat for a baby by 50%.

    Combined car-seat stroller units are the most convenient way to get that cumbersome gear on board. Make sure the car-seat is FAA approved for use on planes, or it won't be permitted on-board.

    An alternative to lugging that car-seat: CARES Airplane Seat Harness weighs less than a pound, and secures a child in the regular airplane seat.

    Keep your stroller until the last possible moment. The stroller gives you mobility in the airport, it can carry a lot of your stuff, and if your flight is delayed, your baby has a comfy place to nap. Typically you can keep your stroller until boarding and then check it just before you step on the plane.

    Bring three more diapers than you think you'll need. Also bring zip-loc bags for any soiled clothes.

    For babies, bring several changes of clothes, and extra clothes for yourself if possible (- the worst can happen). An extra t-shirt for older kids can come in handy, too: it seems to be easy to spill drinks on planes!

    For bottle-feeding babies, bring ready-made formula or powdered formula to be used with bottled water. Security rules forbid liquids in sizes over 3 oz., but formula, breast milk, and juice CAN be brought if you're with a baby. As for water,security rules don't allow you to bring a bottle of water through the security gates, but you can bring an empty baby bottle or sippy cup and then buy water once you've passed the security gate. (Check latest rules for what you can bring on the plane.)

    Bring snacks onboard: very few domestic flights these days serve any meals, so be sure to feed the kids before your flight and/or bring snacks along. Parents traveling with babies are allowed bring on-board baby food in cans or jars. Also, considerable time may pass before flight attendants can bring around drinks, so try to have a drink on-hand. See above, for rules about bringing liquids on-board if you're traveling with a baby. If you're with a toddler, buy bottled water after you pass through the security gate.

    Bring along a plastic food container for storing a half-eaten or an untouched meal, for later. For example, on long flights meals are still provided but kids are sometimes fast asleep when the food is served. A food container is also useful if you grab a meal in the airport and your child only eats a bite or two: take the rest on the plane.

    Bring baby-wipes even when traveling with older kids, to clean up dribbles down shirt-fronts, spills, etc.

    Take plenty of amusements. Inexpensive novelties -- in three layers of wrapping -- work wonders.

    Don't give out your loot (treats, toys, etc.) too soon! Make sure to hold back enough surprises to last the whole trip.

Tips:

    To avoid ear pressure problems, have babies either nurse or suck on a bottle during takeoffs and landings. Small kids can suck on a candy or chew gum.
    With tiny kids, expect to spend pretty much every minute taking care of them. Forget that in-flight movie; you can watch it when they're nine and think it's a huge luxury.

MY THOUGHTS

Whew!  I've never done and I'm not eager to.

Airports to finally relax anti-terrorism security checks

Airports to finally relax anti-terrorism security checks


Airports could become far more ‘passenger friendly’ under new rules aimed at relaxing anti-terror checks.

Forcing passengers to remove their shoes and belts and put their change in a plastic tray could be done at an airport’s discretion in future, said transport secretary Philip Hammond.

Long queues at security are common throughout the year at major British airports and some passengers believe the rules are far too strict.   

Under the plans, outlined in a consultation paper yesterday, Mr Hammond said he wanted to move away ‘from the current highly prescriptive one-size-fits-all approach’ at airports.

He wants the new regime to maintain and improve security standards ‘but in a more efficient and passenger-friendly way’.

He insisted the safety and security of passengers remained ‘of paramount importance to the government’.

He is also proposing to require all airport industry operators to develop a security management system.

In a separate move, Heathrow Airport could soon be allowed to make simultaneous use of two runways for arrivals and departures.

It would cut delays in peak periods and will be trialled from November to February next year.

Anti-noise campaigners in west London said the trial must not become ‘the thin end of the wedge’.

MY THOUGHTS

I don't know about you.  Me, I kind of got used to these little "inconveniences". I feel better 'cause I feel safer when I go through some strict proceedings. If I don't want to be too inconvenienced, I don't wear socks and shoes with too many ties.  I also do away with the belt.  These are small things to deal with in return for a safe trip.

HONORING MOTHERS

Honoring Mothers on Mother’s Day
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published May 06, 2011

Today’s message is a simple one directed at important people. These figures are female and their role is one of the most treasured among families. Who is this VIP? In a word it’s… Mother! As you know, Sunday is the day that we annually celebrate the wonder and magnificence of our moms. In my opinion, moms are the most noble, significant and unselfish creatures on earth.

One of my favorite quotes about mothers comes from a woman named Tenneva Jordan: “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” For those of you fortunate to still have your mother in your life, I hope you let her know how much she’s loved and appreciated. If, on the other hand, you’ve lost your mother or are estranged from her, this will be a tough weekend. Whether you have a mother or just know women who are good mothers, take this day to honor the special people who create, shape and touch so many lives.

Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare
www.innerdiet.com

Follow Dr. Sklare on Health Bistro!

MY THOUGHTS

I'm sure we all have stories of how great our mothers are.  I wonder if our mom's have stories of how much we appreciate them.

Bin Laden Killing Spurs Travel Warning

Bin Laden Killing Spurs Travel Warning
By Robert Longley, About.com Guide  May 2, 2011

Even as Americans celebrated the killing of al Qaeda leader Osama bin Laden by U.S. forces in Pakistan, the U.S. Department of State warned of possible reprisals against Americans and issued a worldwide travel alert warning of anti-American violence.

"Given the uncertainty and volatility of the current situation, U.S. citizens in areas where recent events could cause anti-American violence are strongly urged to limit their travel outside of their homes and hotels and avoid mass gatherings and demonstrations," states the Travel Alert, which remains in effect until August 1, 2011.

The State Department also noted that some U.S. Embassies and Consulates, especially in the Middle East, might be temporarily closed during the warning period due to security concerns. "U.S. citizens abroad are urged to monitor the local news and maintain contact with the nearest U.S. Embassy or Consulate," states the Travel Warning.

Travel information is always available at the State Department web site -- www.travel.state.gov. Up-to-date information on security can also be obtained by calling             1-888-407-4747 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting            1-888-407-4747      end_of_the_skype_highlighting       toll-free in the United States and Canada or, for callers outside the United States and Canada, a regular toll line at             1-202-501-4444 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting            1-202-501-4444      end_of_the_skype_highlighting      .

MY THOUGHTS

I think the same warning has been issued here.  On a less serious note, of course.  But a warning just the same.

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TRAVEL WARNINGS AND TRAVEL ALERTS

What is the difference between travel warnings and travel alerts?

By Kathleen Crislip, About.com Guide
http://studenttravel.about.com/od/safestudenttravel/f/warning_pa.htm?nl=1

Question: What is the difference between travel warnings and travel alerts?

Answer: Travel alerts (formerly called travel public announcements), generally short term in nature, are issued because of situations like political unrest, recent violence by terrorists and on anniversary dates of specific terrorist events, and contain information about terrorist threats, political coups and other short-term conditions which may pose "significant risks to the security of American travelers," according to the government website. Examples of travel alerts would be those regarding 2006/07 and 2007/08's drug gang violence in Mexico, or 2008's trouble in Thailand and Mumbai.

Travel alerts are milder than travel warnings, in which the State Department recommend that Americans avoid travel to a country altogether because of its long term instability or "...when the U.S. Government's ability to assist American citizens is constrained due to the closure of an embassy or consulate or because of a drawdown of its staff." In winter, 2009, travel warnings existed for travel to and/or in Iran, Iraq, Haiti, Nepal, the Philippines, and Israel, the West Bank and Gaza among 22 other countries and areas; an example of a temporary warning was the travel warning issued during the spring, 2008 turmoil in Tibet, for instance, or the update of an existing Haiti travel warning after the 2010 Haiti earthquake.

I've been traveling in countries when the US government issued travel alerts for that country, and I've always been perfectly safe -- however, though it is always important to follow basic travel safety rules when you're on the road, times of unrest abroad necessitate particular attention to safety. If a travel alert has been issued for a country, consider registering with the US embassy in that country (more on that below).

Remember that Uncle Sam will help you with emergency evacuation from a troubled country, but it comes in the form of a repatriation loan via the Office of American Citizens Services and Crisis Management (ACS), which can be called upon to rescue you from a bad situation abroad. We've always heard that repatriation loans are like dialing Dad for dollars if unexpectedly destitute and that, just like when calling home, you have to wait overseas for the money to arrive and eventually repay that loan (and explain how this happened, too). The situation in Lebanon in summer, 2006, showed this to be the case, when Americans needing help to get out of the country got the help and a big bill -- though those bills were forgiven after public outcry, there is no reason to believe you'll ever get an ultimately free ride home if you find yourself in a dangerous situation.

MY THOUGHTS

Better safe than sorry!

VIA DOLOROSA

The Beauty of the Via Dolorosa
As seen by the great artists

http://www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration/Galleries/Beauty-of-the-Via-Dolorosa.aspx?source=NEWSLETTER&nlsource=11&ppc=&utm_campaign=Bible&utm_source=NL&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_term=yahoo.com.ph

What is the Via Dolorosa? You've seen the Stations of the Cross in every Catholic Church you've ever visited. But what are they all about? Sometime around the 15th Century, a tradition developed in which believers - particularly on Good Friday - would retrace the steps that Christ took to Calvary.

If you visit Jerusalem today, 14 stations are marked along the "Via Dolorosa," Latin for "Way of Grief" or "Route of Suffering." Let's take a walk down the Via Dolorosa through the eyes of such great artists as Michaelangelo, Van Dyck, El Greco, Mantegna, Caravaggio and several whose names history has forgotten, but whose masterpieces still inspire us today.

The artwork above is Station 14: Lamentation Over the Dead Christ (1490) by Andrea Mantegna (1431-1506) on display today in Milan, Italy at the Panacoteca di Brera museum

Jesus is Condemned to Death

Station 1: Jesus is Condemned to Death. We all know the story of how Jesus was tried so unfairly -- but before he was presented to Herod and then Pontius Pilate, he was mocked, reviled, brutally beaten and given a faded purple robe, a crown of thorns and a reed as a royal scepter. In this painting by the great artist Caravaggio (1571-1610), whose full name was Michelangelo Merisi da Caravaggio, Jesus is about to be scourged, His back torn by the Roman lashes.

Jesus is given His cross

Station 2: Jesus is given His cross. Jesus was mocked by Herod, rejected by the crowd demanding the release of a murderer, Barabbas, then condemned to die by Pontius Pilate. He was made to drag a rough wooden cross through the streets of Jerusalem. Only a week before, the crowds had rejoiced and hailed Him as the Messiah during His "Triumphal Entry," throwing down their coats and palm branches before Him. This classic artwork, "Christ Carrying the Cross," was painted in 1580 by Domenikos Theotokopoulos (1541–1614), the great Cretan painter known to the world simply as El Greco.

Jesus falls for the first time

Station 3: Jesus falls for the first time. No one seems to be able to remember the name of the artist who portrayed our Lord stumbling under the weight of the cross in painted tiles. This 100-year-old mosaic is part of the Stations of the Cross at Our Lady of the Assumption church in Claremont, California.

Jesus encounters Mary, His mother

Station 4. Jesus encounters His mother. As He struggles under the heavy burden of the cross, our Lord spots His distraught mother in the crowd. This artwork is part of the Stations of the Cross in the Basilica of the Immaculate Conception in Waterbury, Connecticut. Regrettably, the artist of this 100-year-old watercolor is unknown.

Simon of Cyrene carries the cross

Station 5. Simon of Cyrene carries the cross. Exhausted from His ordeal, abandoned by His disciples, Jesus struggles to carry the cross - but cannot. So, the Roman centurion in charge orders a visitor from Cyrene, Africa, to help. Mark 15:21 says Simon was the father of "Alexander and Rufus." Both are mentioned later by Paul in his Epistles as leaders of the early church. The artist of this painting is unknown.

Veronica wipes the face of Jesus

Station 6. Veronica wipes the face of Jesus with her scarf. The Bible does not mention Veronica, however tradition says that she was a follower who could not contain herself any longer and came to His aid, wiping his face with her scarf. Some say she was the woman healed in Matthew 4:20. Her scarf was said to bear Jesus' image -- but unlike the Shroud of Turin, has not survived to modern times. It is believed to have been destroyed in 1527 when Rome was looted by mutinous troops of the Holy Roman Emperor Charles V. This bas relief carving and painting is one of the Stations of the Cross at the Catholic Church of Glanmire Parish in County Cork, Ireland.

Jesus falls a second time

Station 7. Jesus falls a second time. The biblical account does not detail just how many times Jesus stumbled, however tradition tells of three separate times when He fell to the ground under the burden of the cross. This wood carving is by an unknown sculptor.

Jesus sees the faithful women

Station 8. Jesus meets the daughters of Jerusalem. The biblical account tells of how the women who had followed our Lord throughout His ministry were among the few who were faithful throughout His terrible ordeal on Good Friday. The Bible does say that the Twelve Disciples were afraid - with only John the Beloved Disciple standing with the women at the foot of the cross. This sepia-tone print is taken from a 19th Century printer's engraving. The engraver's name is not known.

Jesus falls for the third time

Station 9. Jesus falls for the third time. The biblical account is clear that our Lord had difficulty in the long trek to the hill called Calvary. This beautiful wood carving is from the Stations of the Cross at the Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela in Spain.

Jesus is stripped of His robe

Station 10. Jesus is stripped of His robe. The Bible tells of the soldiers at the foot of the cross gambling for His seamless robe. Crucifixion was a dehumanizing, brutal means of execution. The condemned were given no dignity - and allowed to suffer, lingering between life and death for as long as a week, according to historical accounts. This watercolor was painted by French artist  James Jacques Tissot (1836-1902).

Jesus is nailed to the cross

Station 11. Jesus is nailed to the cross. The brutality of crucifixion defies human imagination. Here, the Lord's hands and feet are pinned to the cross with rough iron spikes. This bas relief sculpture is part of the Stations of the Cross at Ludwigskirche (St. Ludwig's Church) in Darmstadt, Germany.

Jesus dies on the cross

Station 12. Jesus dies on the cross. Bearing the sins of the world, the Son of God looks out at His tormentors and says, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." Then, the sky darkens, the earth trembles, the veil separating the Holy Place from the Holy of Holies in the Temple is torn in two - and the Lamb of God dies. This carving has been one of the Stations of the Cross for more than 100 years at St. Raphael's Cathedral in Dubuque, Iowa.

Jesus' body is removed from the cross

Station 13. Jesus' body is removed from the cross. It is over. This dramatic oil painting is by Rembrandt van Rijn (1606-1669). The artist put himself into the painting as the mourning figure in blue, penitent and shaken with suffering, helping remove Christ's body.

Jesus' body is laid in the tomb

Station 14. Jesus' body is laid in the tomb. The faithful women and the Disciples are assisted by Nicodemus and place His body in a new tomb in a garden nearby donated by Joseph of Arimathea. This painting, "The Lamentation," is by the Flemish master Antony Van Dyck (1599-1641) and is on display at the Palais des Beaux Arts de Bruxelles museum in Brussels, Belgium.

He is risen! Allelujah!

The Resurrection of Jesus. Although not traditionally part of the Stations of the Cross, the Resurrection is often included as a fifteenth station signifying the triumph of good over evil, of life over death and of hope over despair. After years of official atheism in Russia, this masterpiece is again on display in a place of prominence at the State Russian Museum in Moscow. It is "Appearance of Christ to Mary Madgalene," painted in 1835 by the Russian master Alexander Ivanov (1806-1858).

MY THOUGHTS

Here's a picture of Sta. Veronica that has been in my family for ages.

Why is Holy Week not the same dates every year?

Why is Holy Week not the same dates every year?

1)The first thing to remember is that you are using the Moon calendar ... based on the phases of the moon.

2) Jesus died on Nisan 14, when the Jews celebrated the Passover (Exodus 12:11,18, Leviticus 23:4, 5; Numbers 8:3, Esther 3:7, Matthew 26:19)

You have to realize that Nisan 14 is nothing more than 14 days after the new moon nearest to the spring equinox (No matter if it's before or after the vernal equinox)

3) The spring equinox falls on March 20 each year.

4) The New Moon occurs every 30 days

5) Remember, 14 days after the New Moon nearest to March 20 ... No matter if it's before or after March 20.



Now let's practice...

Take for example the spring equinox of 2010 and 2011 and the new moon ...


New Moon of 2010 before and after the equinox or March 20:

New Moon (March 15, 2010*) - the visible New Moon over Jerusalem was on March 17, 2010 -

Equinox (March 20, 2010*)

New Moon (April 14, 2010*)


Note that the New Moon nearest to the vernal equinox is the New Moon of March 15, 2010 ...

Ones the Jews have determined the closest moon to the vernal equinox ... they count 14 days from that point (the new moon)... taking us to Nisan 14.

In 2010, the 14th of Nisan fell on March 30, 2010 (Remember the days begin in the afternoon until the following afternoon).


Let's look at 2011:

New Moon (March 4, 2011*)

Spring Equinox (March 20, 2011*)

New Moon (April 3, 2011*) - the visible new moon over Jerusalem is on April 4 -

*Astronomical new moon


As you can see, the new moon nearest the vernal equinox is the one that will fall on April 3, 2011. If we count 14 days from the visible new moon over Jerusalem... it will take us to April 17, 2011.



The Catholic Church celebrates Easter on the Sunday following the full moon of the new moon nearest to 20 March or vernal equinox.

This year the full moon will fall on April 18, 2011. So the next Sunday is 24.

So the Holy Week will run from April 17 until April 24, 2011.


PD: The Passover kept of by modern-day Jews is set to coincide with the astronomical new moon, not the visible new moon over Jerusalem, which may come 18 to 30 hours later. Also, most Jews today keep the Passover on Nisan 15, not on the 14th as Jesus did in harmony with what was stated in the Mosaic Law. The Memorial or Commemoration of Jesus death kept by Jehovah's Witnesses is set to coincide with the new moon over Jerusalem.

MY THOUGHTS

All that math!  Doesn't matter why - I guess!  More important is how you view holy week and what you do about it.

SOMEWHERE TO GO DURING HOLY WEEK

Kuh's Tagaytay hideaway
FUNFARE By Ricardo F. Lo The Philippine Star Updated April 16, 2011 12:00 AM 0 comment to this post

When life in the city gets somewhat too suffocating, some stars usually hie off to, if not foreign shores (Hong Kong and Bangkok are favorite destinations), Boracay to unwind, never mind if the faces they bump into are the same ones from Manila they are running away from.

Tempo’s Ronald Constantino is right.

“The perfect place to be during the Holy Week is Metro Manila,” said Ronald who is packing his things for a post-Lenten holiday “somewhere” with STAR contributor Bibsy Carballo. Hola! “Everybody goes out of town and Metro Manila is all too suddenly quiet and peaceful, no traffic and no ‘intrigues’ since TV is off, so it’s ideal for meditation and soul-searching.”

But where does Kuh Ledesma go to relax, recharge and renew herself on weekends and during the Lenten Season? 

Yes, to her own Hacienda Isabella (named after her daughter) in Tagaytay City which is only more than an hour drive away. The place has been consistently receiving rave reviews for its tasteful, unique and rustic style, laid-back ambience and impeccable service (the buffet offers food for all kinds of palates).

“During Holy Week,” Kuh told Funfare, “an option of healthy organic food will be available aside from the Hacienda’s best-sellers.”

The Hacienda is open to guests.

“We accept walk-ins for special breakfast, lunch or dinner,” added Kuh.

More than the gustatory delights, Hacienda likewise offers “food for the spirit” at its daily Bible classes and inspirational talks conducted by Kuh herself and other speakers who are Bible teachers.

(Note: For reservations and inquiries about the Holy Week package, call 726-6485 and 721-1936, or mobile phones 0920-9539488 and 0917-8139065.)

Holy Week events at Kamay ni Hesus

And if you happen to be at the Kamay ni Hesus Shrine in Lucban, Quezon, here’s Fr. Joey Faller’s schedule of activities for the Holy Week:

• Palm Sunday, April 17 — Commemoration of Jesus’ entry to Jerusalem, morning and afternoon Masses, and Estacion General (Via Crucis at Grotto);

• Holy Monday, April 18 — Morning and afternoon Masses and stage play Biglang-Bigla Isang Umaga;

• Holy Tuesday, April 19 — Afternoon Mass, and continuation of stage play;

• Holy Wednesday, April 20 — Morning healing Mass and afternoon Mass, and continuation of stage play;

• Maundy Thursday, April 21 — Evening Mass of the Lord’s Supper, Washing of the Feet, Holy Communion, Procession, Benediction, and Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament;

• Good Friday, April 22 — Celebration of the Lord’s Passion, Liturgy of the Word, Veneration of the Cross, Communion, Procession, and continuation of stage play;

• Black Saturday, April 23 — Continuous veneration of the Image of Crucified Christ and continuation of stage play; and

• Easter Sunday, April 24 — Eucharistic celebrations.

(E-mail reactions at rickylo@philstar.net.ph or at entphilstar@yahoo.com. You may also send your questions to askrickylo@gmail.com. For more updates, photos and videos visit www.philstar.com/funfare.)

MY THOUGHTS

I've never been to Kuh's hacienda. I can't really say if it's a good place to go or not. But it's near enough to risk it. We took a risk at Sonia's and it was good.  We risked going to Nature Spa and have gone there 2x already.  We risked eating at this quaint italian restaurat in Tagaytay.  I can't remember the name but I can still remember the taste of their excellent pasta and how tranquil you feel eating under the trees with all those glittering lights. 

I'd say it's worth checking out Kuh's place.

I've been to Kamay na Hesus and I will never dare those stairs again.

VOLUNTEER VACATIONS

Volunteer Vacations
For the Thrifty Traveller
http://www.frugal-living-tips.com/volunteer-vacations.html

Volunteer Vacations, are they for me? If you like experiencing life without all the tourist hype and love to get your hands dirty, then I would say yes they are.

It is perfectly possible to visit some of the most exotic, and beautiful places in the world without spending a fortune and enjoying a holiday that makes a difference as part of your frugal living plan.

By taking a working vacation, you help could be helping a very good cause or just helping the local economy and all on a shoestring budget.

By volunteer vacations, I don't mean a placement for months at a time, but a short break, from a weekend to two weeks, either short or long haul, where, for the cost of a little work, the overall expense is reduced, in some cases drastically.

There is the added advantage that you get a much richer experience of the place you are visiting than the tourist on an often overpriced package holiday may do.

Does this all sound a little risky? - Not at all these days, there are many specialist travel agents well experienced in providing volunteer vacations, with all the safety precautions taken into consideration and checked out before hand.

It does require a little thought and planning on your part, though. Obviously, there's no point in volunteering to dig ditches if you have a back problem, or volunteering to do something you really wouldn't enjoy. After all this is meant to be a holiday.

Also, it does help if you have a specific skill. But that doesn't necessarily mean eight years of medical school or a degree in horticulture, just being fluent in English is a sought after skill, for instance.

How to find volunteer vacations.

There are lots of websites out there that can find you the perfect frugal living vacation; here is a selection of some of the longer established organisations:

The Earthwatch Institute (www.earthwatch.org) specialise in environmental placements. They have teamed up with Travelocity (http://leisure.travelocity.com) to offer grants to qualifying volunteers, which could cut the price of your vacation even further.

Global Vision International (www.gviusa.com) is a very well organised site; it has sections for U.S., U.K., Irish and Australian volunteers.

They specialise in placements of one week or more, and at any one time have over 100 different projects to choose from.

These are mainly long haul. The support given to volunteers by GVI is excellent, and they are on hand to help 24 hours a day in the unlikely event that you run into any problems, however minor.

The volunteer has to organise their own airfares, insurance, and in some instances, transfers from the destination airport.

United Planet (www.unitedplanet.org) again specialise in long haul volunteering vacations. Again they have hundreds of projects to choose from. They also have a useful section on obtaining sponsorship, which can help cut the cost of your vacation even further. Their fees do not include airfares.

Cheap Tickets (www.cheaptickets.com) have a volunteering option where it is possible to take a few days out of a leisure holiday to take part in a volunteering opportunity. They also have options of taking a few days out in the U.S. to help with different projects in a range of areas. This is useful for planning short breaks.

Own Country Holidays

Depending where you live, there are any numbers of country-based charities offering vacations for volunteers, for example:

The American Hiking Association (www.americanhiking.org) offers opportunities to mend trails, provide visitor facilities - ideal for outdoor types.

The National Trust (www.nationaltrust.org.uk) offers a range of activities in the U.K., from painting lighthouses, to stewarding in Stately Homes. If history is your bag, then these are excellent.

MY THOUGHTS

Sounds promising. I may not go for camping or backpacking but I might just go for a volunteer vacation.

SAVING ON VACATIONS BY CAMPING

Camping Holidays
For The Perfect Cheap Vacation.


Camping holidays, are they for you? Well you either love or hate camping, there doesn't seem to be much of a middle ground.

Many of us first experience camping when we are children, going away with mum and dad or with the local kids club.

It was all high jinx; scary stories and waking up in a damp sleeping bag and you may be wondering why as an adult would you want to do that again.

Well things have changed over the years and camping holidays are now a little less basic and with a little effort are great fun for the whole family.

If you want to get away from it all and your budget is tight, frugal camping holidays could be the perfect solution.

What are the choices for frugal camping holidays?

There are plenty of different places you can now pitch your tent, it all depends on what sort of camping experience you are looking for. For instance there are:

* Get away from it all sites - these can be basic with just a shower block and toilet facilities. But they are great for being in the middle of nowhere where you can truly enjoy the countryside and get away from all of life's hustle and bustle.

* Seaside sites - If you enjoy being by the sea or want to have a family beach holiday then these sites are perfect. They normally also include some sort of onsite family entertainment centre where the kids can play and the adults can have a lively drink or two.

* Trekking - if you really want to see the countryside and are into some serious walking then trekking with your tent on your back and visiting specially allocated small trekking camping sites could be for you. These sites attract the adventurous types and you could find yourself sitting round campfires in the evening swapping stories with other trekkers.

The equipment

Keeping it frugal, simple and light to carry especially if you trekking is often the first consideration when taking camping holidays. However there are some essentials that if you travel without could ruin your entire vacation.
Sleeping comfort

You can either decide to:

* Sleep on just a ground sheet - rather hard on your back and you may end up getting wet.

* Airbed - these are comfortable and only require blowing up. However they can be heavy to carry.

* A sleeping pad - lightweight and easy to carry, these rolls provide a little comfort.

* Camping bed - these are raised off the ground like a hammock are quite comfortable but a little more difficult to carry around.

The sleeping bag you choose will depend on the time of year you are travelling. During the summer only a lightweight bag is required but it is always better to go for something a little warmer, as it is much easier to cool down than to warm up.

Cooking equipment

If you are going for the full camping holidays experience then you will be cooking under the stars. If there are only a couple of you then a single gas stove is all you will need.

They are light and easy to carry and are great for single pot cooking. If there are more of you and you are not planning to carry your equipment around with you then there are full outdoor stoves available, these are probably better if you are cooking for a family, as your menu options are greater.

However be frugal with just how many pots and pans you really need, after all you don't want to have to carry around with you heavy unecceassry items if you don't have to.

Plan your meals before you go and only take the cooking utensils you will require. To keep costs to a minimum, take your own pots and buy some cheap plastic plates etc from the cheap stores rather than from the camping store.

If you are trekking and planning to camp often then it would be advisable to buy the proper camping utensils as they have folding handles and stack together for ease of transportation.

Lighting

You will need a torch to find your way to the toilets during the night. Invest in a wind up one that will reduce the cost of batteries and can also be used forever more at home. A little gas lantern will be needed to light your tent at night. Only have one per tent and use aluminium foil to reflect the light as they can be a little dim for reading with.

MY THOUGHTS

I've had very few camping trips in my lifetime. My memories of them are not worth repeating. All I can remember is the uncomfortable, messy feeling. A tent is not my idea of a vacation. Even if it's just for one night. Maybe I should try it again. If I follow these tips, maybe my perspective (and my experience) might change.

BUDGET BACKPACKING

Budget Backpacking For The Frugal Traveller
http://www.frugal-living-tips.com/budget-backpacking.html

Is budget backpacking for you? Well that very much depends on what you are hoping to get from your travels and or course just what sort of budget you have.

Backpacking is normally the realm of the teenager wanting to see the world before having to settle down to university life or getting a regular nine to five job.

However teenagers are not known for their large bank balances and so only budget travel is an option for them, and so backpacking is the most frugal option.

However I won't be ageist here and I do know of some very seasoned travellers in later years who absolutely love the backpacking life.

So it is down to either your budget or your taste in vacations that will determine if a budget backpacking trip is for you.

What is frugal backpacking?

Traditionally backpacking holidays consist of travelling light, staying in youth hostels, working for your keep and travelling by the cheapest methods possible.

It also means not staying in one place for too long with the intention to see as much of the world as possible.

If you are not prepared to sleep in the most basic of places, and not knowing where you will stay from day to day and to have to wear the same clothes for more than a few days then perhaps this type of holiday is not for you.

But just like camping backpacking does give you a tremendous sense of freedom and can be the ulitimate frugal vacation. You can pretty well do what you want to, when you want to, with no one else looking over your shoulder.

Budget backpacking strategies

Usually budget backpacking vacations are much longer than normal vacations and so spreading out your money is one of the major considerations. So to be a good frugal backpacker will take quite some planning ahead of your trip to make sure that you use every penny wisely.

Plan your budget - decide in advance how much you are going to spend on things like food, accommodation, travel etc and stick to your daily plan. If you don't, you may find yourself having to cut your vacation short. Put your frugal head on and spend your money wisely.

Plan your route carefully - find out the best and cheapest ways to travel in the countries you are visiting and remember to always keep yourself safe. Here are a few travel tips:

Don't hitchhike unless you are not alone.

Walk if you can, a five mile walk to another town won't be that much of a hardship and will allow you to see more of the country.

Use local buses rather than taxicabs

Accommodation - Hostels are the cheapest option for your budget backpacking vacation; find out where they are at your destinations before you go so that you won't waste time on your trip trudging around looking for somewhere to sleep all the time.

Hostels are also a great way to meet other travellers and find out all the little money saving tips others have come across.

However there is even a better and cheaper way of finding somewhere to stay. Sites like Globalfreeloader.com and couchsurfing.com list places to stay for free.

These places are offered by local people who enjoy meeting different people and are prepared to allow them to sleep on their coach or in the spare bedroom if you're lucky. This is a great option if you want to meet local people and really find out all about the country. However be safe and always let people know where you will be staying if travelling alone.

Entertainment - The last thing you want to do on your budget backpacking vacation is to scrimp on actually doing things. So here are a few tips to ensure you get as much from your vacation as possible without breaking the bank but still being frugal:

* Invest in an international student card before you go, these cards will allow you to visit all the major museums and galleries and other major tourist attractions at a reduced rate.

Check carefully that they will cover the places you want to visit.

* Tag on the end of guided talks. I have done this many times, they hardly ever notice that you have joined their group and if they do spot you, just smile sweetly and walk away, no point in arguing.

* Drink the local brews rather than going for the big brand names. Search out the un-touristy places to drink and experience local life.

* Plan to sample the local restaurants at least once a week. There's no point travelling half way round the world if all you're going to eat is bread and cheese.

Plan a meal out once a week into your budget. The rest of the time, eat simply and make use of local supermarkets.

Budget backpacking essentials

There are a few things to make sure you pack on your backpacking vacation to make sure that you are fully prepared for your trip.

* Maps and guidebooks - these are essential to making the most of your vacation and stops you wasting time wandering around lost. Also by making sure you have them all from the start of your trip you won't have to waste any precious money

* Water bottle - don't buy water on your trip to drink instead use tap water and drinking water fountains to fill up your bottle, this can be a big money saver during your trip (make sure the local water is drinkable though). Theres no point being frugal if you're going to end up sick.

* Backup money - it is important that you have some way of accessing extra money if something unforeseen comes up. This may be a credit card of your own or borrowing a family members card that you promise only to use in an emergency. You will have to be very strict with yourself and not be tempted by that little plastic friend in your pocket.

* Telephone numbers - be prepared and know how to use the telephones in any country and what the international telephone codes are for you to contact your family.

I have often come across travelers in London looking blankly at telephones and not understanding how to use them and why the normal telephone number for their parents won't work. I have had to help out many upset and confused traveler.

MY THOUGHTS

Never done this. Who knows? One of these days. Maybe.

BUDGET TRAVELTIPS

Budget Travel Tips
For The Frugal Traveller

Budget travel planning has been something both my partner and myself have carried out for years, ever since we no longer had two incomes coming into the home.

Gone are the days of booking the first hotel we come across and usually being ripped off by their over priced rooms and add-ons.

Now we spend a little time planning ahead and discovering that there are plenty of ways to travel in style without paying a fortune. Frugal vacations need not be diffcult to organise.

Of course budget travel planning also sometimes means not going on the usual two-week holiday just because it is something everyone else does. Instead it could also mean planning lots of short weekend breaks and day trips throughout the year.

This can work out a lot cheaper as you can book out of season and gain by taking up all those weekend break deals being offered. It also places less pressure on work and children's schooling commitments.

I used to miss one week at the start of term when I was little because my parents couldn't afford to go on holiday at peak times, it was very difficult to catch up.

Watch out for those hidden extra costs

There are always things that can be easily forgotten when budget travel planning and which can throw the whole expenditure into turmoil if not careful.

Vaccinations - if you are planning to go to a country where lots of vaccinations are required before you go, it is best to check with your doctor if there are any charges for these, especially if you live in a country where the health service is not free.

These vaccination charges can mount up if the whole family need them, so it best to try and build these into your budget travel plan. Of course you could just be very frugal and decide to go somewhere else instead.

Equipment - You may be planning on going on an activity holiday where you will be expected to either have some of your own special equipment or clothing or will be expected to hire them once you are there.

Skiing vacations are a good example of this, where skiing equipment and extra warm clothes costs will be on top of your travelling and accommodation costs.

Even if you do have your own skies and clothes and plan to take them with you, it may cost you extra to travel with them in your luggage due to size and weight. Build all these costs into your frugal budget travel plan.

Luggage - make sure that you do not pack too much when travelling abroad. Too many people have been hit hard at the airport when they have to pay extra weight charges on their luggage. These costs can be high, so always check exactly what your weight allowance is before you go. Be frugal with your packing and ask yourself "do i really need all these clothes"?

Insurances - Always build in insurance costs into your budget travel plans. Lost luggage, double booking and accidents are all good things to insure your self against. Make sure you buy your insurances separate from your holiday seller to ensure you do not may too much. Also it is possible to buy insurance that will cover you for a whole year if you plan to frugal travel more than once, it works out a lot cheaper in the long run.
What types of budget travel vacations are there?

Family vacations - When you have a family your choice of holidays dramatically change from when you were single.

Now instead of wanting to sip cocktails in the moonlight, you now have to make sure that there are plenty of activities to keep the children amused so that you at least get the occasional five minutes to yourself.

Planning a vacation for the family can work out expensive but it is possible to take advantage of many child friendly vacations on offer and by comparing the deals you may even end up saving yourself some money.

Backpacking - For those of you that have the wanderlust in you, backpacking is a great way to see the world on a shoestring if you don't mind roughing it a bit.

There are many offers for student travel available and if you are prepared to work a little on these vacations you may find that accommodation costs are practically nil. Frugal living at it's best.

Working Vacations - These vacations used to be very popular in the UK during the 50's when a lot of families who could not afford holidays would spend two weeks picking hops on farms in the south of England. However these sorts of holidays are still around today and in many different parts of the world.

Whether it is picking fruit, grapes for wine, olives or helping to clear rhododendrons as part of an environmental scheme, they are all great fun, cheap and a good place to make new friends.

Camping - traditionally the cheaper way to go on vacation, where accommodation costs are minimal and experiencing the great outdoors is all part of the joy of the holiday.

Keeping this type of vacation simple and not eating out at restaurants every night but cooking your own food and making the entertainment up yourself will ensure that this holiday will remain a budget travel reality.

Vacations for singles and couples - Even if your dream is of a fairly luxurious and perhaps romantic vacation, it is still possible to make a budget travel plan that will help to keep the costs to a minimum and within your frugal budget. After all every frugal traveller knows that it is possible to still have a great holiday on a budget. You could even decide to take a virtual trip to say somewhere like Las Vegas instead. A little piece of Vegas can be enjoyed via online casinos, just keep within your budget.

MY THOUGHTS

My personal preference would be to save up and really vacation in style. It doesn't have to be the high-end hotels and resorts. But I prefer not to cook not scrimp on food when on holiday. In fact,I wouldn't mind foregoing a vacation for a year so I can enjoy the real deal next year.

HISTORY OF APRIL FOOL'S DAY

April Fool's Day
The History of April Fool's Day

By Mary Bellis, About.com Guide

In sixteenth-century France, the start of the new year was observed on April first. It was celebrated in much the same way as it is today with parties and dancing into the late hours of the night.

The First April Fool's Day

Then in 1562, Pope Gregory introduced a new calendar for the Christian world, and the new year fell on January first. There were some people, however, who hadn't heard or didn't believe the change in the date, so they continued to celebrate New Year's Day on April first. Others played tricks on them and called them "April fools." They sent them on a "fool's errand" or tried to make them believe that something false was true.

Poisson d'Avril

In France today, April first is called "Poisson d'Avril." French children fool their friends by taping a paper fish to their friends' backs. When the "young fool" discovers this trick, the prankster yells "Poisson d’Avril!" (April Fish!)

April Fool's Day in the USA

Americans play small tricks on friends and strangers alike on the first of April. One common trick on April Fool's Day, or All Fool's Day, is pointing down to a friend's shoe and saying, "Your shoelace is untied." Teachers in the nineteenth century used to say to pupils, "Look! A flock of geese!" and point up. School children might tell a classmate that school has been canceled. Whatever the trick, if the innocent victim falls for the joke the prankster yells, "April Fool! "

April Fool's Day Jokes

The "fools' errands" we play on people are practical jokes. Putting salt in the sugar bowl for the next person is not a nice trick to play on a stranger. College students set their clocks an hour behind, so their roommates show up to the wrong class - or not at all. Some practical jokes are kept up the whole day before the victim realizes what day it is. Most April Fool jokes are in good fun and not meant to harm anyone. The most clever April Fool joke is the one where everyone laughs, especially the person upon whom the joke is played.

"The first of April is the day we remember what we are the other 364 days of the year. " - American humorist Mark Twain

MY THOUGHTS

I know. I'm a day late. But this is not a prank. Just sharing some info.

WHAT TO EAT WHILE ON VACATION

WHAT TO EAT TO SAVE ON VACATIONS

FROM THE ARTICLE 'Cheap Family Vacations For the Frugal Lifestyle'
www.frugal-living-tips.com

What to eat

Eating out with the whole family all the time will cost a fortune. Instead be frugal and:

* If staying at a hotel, make sure that everyone eats a big breakfast everyday to keep them full for longer. You could also try to take some bread rolls at breakfast with you for your lunchtime snack.

I used to sneakily fill bread rolls with bacon and take some of the fresh fruit that was left for us at breakfast and keep it for lunch.

* Prepare frugal foods for picnics. Use the local supermarkets for cheap ingredients.

* Always carry snacks for the kids. Cereal bars and bags of crisps are a great way to fill them up and to steer them away from other takeaway options available.

Cheap family vacations activities

* Always plan in advance if you can what you are going to do every day. Remember that you do not have to do everything and the main reason for your holiday is to enjoy spending some time together.

MY THOUGHTS

if you're with kids, don't go for the packaged meals- especially the buffet. kids who eat adult food are rare. it's still cheaper to let them eat 'a la carte'.

WHERE TO GO to save on Vacations

WHERE TO GO TO SAVE ON VACATIONS

from the article "Cheap Family Vacations For the Frugal Lifestyle"
www.frugal-living-tips.com

Where to go

* For a cheap family vacation stay in your own country and either drive or take a coach and avoid airfares.

Even though airfares look very cheap once you have added all the taxes and luggage costs and insurance it can work out far more expensive than you first thought.

* If your heart is set on one of the big family resorts like Disneyland and your frugal living budget can't stretch to these then it is still worth checking out any discounts they may have on offer.

Again it may be worth finding your own accommodation and travel deals yourself rather than relying on agents.

MY THOUGHTS

yes, i am one of those people who cannot completely trust travle agents and web reservations. got burned in that area a couple of times and i wouldn't want a repeat performance. and yes, you end up getting better deals when you make reservations yourself.

WHERE TO STAY to save on Vacations

WHERE TO STAY TO SAVE ON VACATIONS

from the article "Cheap Family Vacations For the Frugal Lifestyle"
www.frugal-living-tips.com

Where to stay

* The all inclusive cheap family vacation is often a good choice for families with small children, as everything is included in the price including kids activities.

* For families with older children booking your own accommodation directly will work out better, as you won't be paying for things you won't be using, like a kids club.

Telephone hotels directly to see if they have any special rates or family deals on offer. When being frugal with your vacation plans it may mean having to take extra time to sort things out for yourself to save in the long run.

* Home swaps - why not arrange with family or friends who live far away to swap each other's house for a week or so.

It will still feel like a vacation and the cost of accommodation is just reduced to paying for utilities.

* Time-shares - if you have a place you like to visit regularly for your vacations then why not consider a share in a time-share apartment. Top tip though is to deal directly with the owner of the apartment and not through an agent.

* Book accommodation on the outskirts of your destination rather than in the centre, prices will differ greatly and buying a season ticket for your whole family can further reduce local bus fares.

MY THOUGHTS

i would much rather save by vacationing off-season. if the place is not nice,comfy, with room service - i wouldn't call it a vacation.

WHEN TO TRAVEL (Cheap Vacation Tips)

WHEN TO TRAVEL (Cheap Vacation Tips)

from the article 'Cheap Family Vacations For the Frugal Lifestyle'
www.frugal-living-tips.com

Cheap family vacations that will keep everyone happy are a reality
When to travel

* If it is possible to travel during the off season then this can save you lots of money, often these holidays are 30 to 40% cheaper. It may mean that the kids will miss one week of school, make sure that this won't be too disruptive and make sure that the school is aware of your trip.

* Check with your destination when their off peak starts, this may not necessarily coincide with other places and so you may be able to go during their first week of their off season and not disrupt your children's schooling.

* Make sure that when you want to travel does not coincide with any festivals or events at your destination. This can raise prices considerably and reduce your choices of accommodation.

MY THOUGHTS

if everyone vacations during off peak, soon off peak will become peak. i'm just being silly. but if we follow the law of economics, the law of supply and demand, that can happen.

SAVING ON FAMILY VACATIONS

GOING ON A FAMILY VACATION ON A TIGHT BUDGET

from the article "Cheap Family Vacations For the Frugal Lifestyle"
www.frugal-living-tips.com

Cheap family vacations that will keep everyone happy are a reality for a family used to the frugal living lifestyle.

Planning ahead and spending your money wisely can still lead to a great vacation, all you have to do is to stay away from all the tourist money grabbing traps and to tell your children before you go that you are all on a budget.

I find that if you let them know this before hand it causes fewer arguments and upsets later and most kids are reasonably understanding if you treat them as grown ups.

MY THOUGHTS

watch out for the tips on When to travel, Where to stay, Where to go, What to eat.

WAYS TO SHOW YOU CARE

10 Thrifty Ways To Deliver Big On Valentine's Day
By Ben Popken on February 11, 2011 11:38 AM

Just because the economy is in the dumps doesn't mean your spirits have to be on V-Day. There's lots of great ways to celebrate your relationship without buying into all the myths of conspicuous consumption. At the same time, classic romantic gestures can be nice and sweet, as long as there's more feeling than Franklins behind them. Here's a guide to some last-minute, creative, frugal and even free ways to say "I love you." (Spoiler alert: the best day to celebrate February 14... is February 15! It's like getting Valentine's Day half-off!)

1. SAY IT WITH A (FREE) SONG

Amazon is giving away a free $2 worth of MP3s. So find the song you guys played over and over on that big road trip and send it!

2. EVERYBODY LIKES THOSE DARN FLOWERS

If you've waited until this long to put your flower order in, you're probably out of luck as far as ordering flowers for delivery on Valentine's Day goes. You can order them for Friday or Saturday, or Tuesday instead. And who says the only kind of flower it can be is roses? Tulips, oriental lilies and carnations are totally beautiful, appropriate, and affordable.

Another thing to do is try hitting your local bodega or grocer very early on the morning Valentine's and pick up flowers before the crowds hit and deliver them yourself. But be careful you don't get burned; When I was a hapless 7th grader buying roses for the first time — on the morning of Valentine's, natch — I got suckered into buying what the florist told me were "Black Beauty" roses. He told me the dark coloration was just how this kind of exotic rose looked. I later learned through the girl grapevine two things: 1) I had given my girlfriend a bunch of dead roses and 2) she was no longer my girlfriend. So make sure whatever you get is fresh and will make it through the day!

3. LIKE WATER FOR CHOCOLATE

We all know the candy industry is a bit of a scam. Considering the raw cost of ingredients, that's some pretty huge markup! Turns out that making your own chocolates and sweets isn't that hard and it's really fun. And if you waited until now to start getting your Valentine's gift together, it's the perfect thing to do early on Saturday morning. Epicurious has some great recipies for homemade sweets, like Coffee Chocolate Truffle Kisses, White-Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries with Citrus Sugar, or Bittersweet Chocolate and Walnut Fudge.

4. OH, JEWELRY...

Despite what the ads say, shiny bangles are not magic amulets that will instantly make your beloved collapse into your arms. So make sure you can afford it, your lover actually will want and appreciate the token, and that you don't pay out the nose. For starters, there's more to jewelry than just diamonds. Black pearl earrings are lovely and don't cost much, for example. A good place to hit up for jewelry that won't break the bank or your heart is bluenile.com. Thrift stores are treasure troves of unique and funky vintage jewelry. So too are consignment shops.

5. VALENTINE'S DAY CAN HAPPEN ON ANY DAY

Declare Feb 15 to be your Valentine's day. Or a week later. Reader Witold says he and his fiancée celebrate Valentine's on Feb 21 and it works great. "That way, we can get a good reservation, buy discounted V-day gifts, and not pay inflated rose prices," he writes. "She is sick of the over the top jewelry ads and blatant price gouging on flowers, and frankly, so am I."

6. SPLASHING CASH ON SHALLOW OBJECTS WILL LEAVE YOU SOAKED

The key to a really great Valentine's gift is to pick something that really matters. Something that says, "I'm paying attention to you!" Surprise them at work in your finery and give them a jar full of their favorite candy. Take one of their favorite pictures they've shot and get it blown up and framed. And sometimes, the most romantic gift of all is a sandwich...

7. OUR LOVE WILL NEVER DIE, SO LET'S DIY!

Handmade gifts are individual to the recepient and show that you put time in instead of just picking up something from the stand at the mall. Make your best attempt at a miniature clay model of their head. Decoupage a light switch. No time to get art supplies? No problem. Here's how you can make an origami heart with wings. For an added touch, reuse old wrapping paper. If there's still a lot of snow around you right now, you could prepare a secret lover's igloo and hide your gifts in there and bring your special someone there for a romantic rendezvous.

8. STAY IN AND WATCH A MOVIE

Snuggle up with some home-made popcorn and watch a fun flick. Redbox will let you send an electronic Valentine's with a coupon for a free movie rental on 2/14. Details are at their Facebook page, coupon code "BEMINE."

9. CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE

There's nothing more romantic than trying something new together, and it doesn't have to be pricey. Check out a free local music show at a cool bar or cafe. Enroll in a one-day poetry workshop and present the flyer for it on Feb 14. Have you guys ever tried snowshoeing or cross-country skiing?

If the two of you are both into video games, getting two copies of a new one for each of you and learning it and playing it together can be a bonding experience. Reader Lori's college boyfriend in 1992 chipped in with friends to buy her a copy of the massively multiplayer online game Everquest. "Creating an account to play with each other was something special," she writes. "I still have fond memories of staying in, installing the game and learning the ropes with the happy BF by my side."

"He graduated that summer and had it not been for that silly game, it wasn't likely our new relationship would have survived the long distance relationship we endured the few subsequent years," writes Lori. "Today, we're married and Everquest has fallen by the wayside, but we still remember those time affectionately."

10. KISSES AND HUGS ARE CHEAP, BUT DEAR

There is a no more cost-effective expression of love than a heartfelt kiss and a hug. So have at it!

MY THOUGHTS

there you go - it's the giver not the gift. it's the effort not the price. it's spending time together (face-to-face or online). it's being happy that there's a valentine's day to make each other feel 'more' special.

HAVE A STRESS FREE VALENTINE

STRESS FREE VALENTINE
Dr. Michelle Callahan
Psychologist, TV Personality, Author
Posted: February 11, 2011 09:31 AM

Valentine's Day 2011: 6 Strategies to Make It Stress-Free

Valentine's Day can be a day full of fun and romance, or a day full of fighting over why your dream date never came to fruition. This Valentine's Day, follow my six strategies for a stress-free Valentine's Day and enjoy your day no matter what you do or who you spend it with.

1. Agree On How to Celebrate

You should compromise with your partner about how to celebrate. The two of you might have very different ideas about what to do on Valentine's Day so why not talk about it ahead of time so you don't end up having a disagreement about it later. Find something you can both feel comfortable doing as a way to celebrate the day.

2. Spend Within Your Means

Don't spend beyond your means just because it's Valentine's Day. In this economy, everyone is scaling back and you should too. Gestures of love don't have a price tag. If anything, spending more than you are comfortable with will be stressful in the end and can create bad spending habits in your relationship.

3. Change the Meaning of Valentine's Day

If you are single, you can change the meaning of Valentine's Day from a day solely about romance to a day about love. Make it a day to celebrate the love you have for anyone special in your life. If you don't have a significant other, spend time with the other people you love. Everyone can actually enjoy the day, not just couples.

4. Think in Terms of What You Can Give, Not Just What You Can Get

Valentine's Day, like many special days, often becomes all about gifts and less about the purpose of the day, which in this case is to spread love. Don't become fixated on what you expect to receive but instead consider what you can give on this day. By give, I don't necessarily mean you have to buy gifts. You can share your love and attention just by being kind, affectionate and considerate to your loved ones. Why not share a valentine with your family and friends (we did it when we were kids, so why stop now?). Or do something loving for someone who may be having a hard time this Valentine's Day (maybe someone elderly and living alone or someone recently divorced or widowed). You could give them a call or a card as a much needed pick-me-up. When you're more focused on what you're giving than what you're getting, you can be pleasantly surprised by how your day turns out.

5. Don't Let Valentine's Day Define Your Relationship

No matter how you decide to spend your Valentine's Day, don't measure the success of your relationship by how romantic or expensive your day was. There are many ways to celebrate, ranging from sharing a handwritten card to taking a lavish vacation. It's only one day out of the year and although you want to have fun, it's what you do the other 364 days of the year that say much more about the strength of your relationship.

6. Stay in the Moment

Sometimes people get so caught up in what they think they're supposed to be doing that they forget to enjoy what they're actually doing. Whatever you decide to do, have fun! Go with the flow and just enjoy yourself. Valentine's Day only comes once a year so don't waste the day distracted by trying to make it "perfect." It will be "perfect" as long as you can connect with someone you love.

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MY THOUGHTS

i don't want to agree on how to celebrate!!! i wanna be surprised! and i wanna feel special because someone took pains to make this day special. loving comes with putting in effort. a lot of effort. the more challenging the circumstances, the more effort is required.

WHAT WOMEN WANT FOR VALENTINE

FYI Guys, The Gift We Want Is Free This Valentine's Day!

In an exclusive iVillage poll, the desire for romance trumps expensive gifts this year

Who said romance is dead? In an exclusive iVillage poll, women say romance matters more than expensive gifts this Valentine's Day.

And what exactly do we want more than anything else? A simple "I love you," as 87 percent of women polled told us that hearing those words is the most important part of the holiday.

Surprised? We were too, but perhaps after years of excess followed by a devastating recession, "material girls" are now old-fashioned romantics. Nearly 40 percent of women would choose a romantic weekend away or a romantic dinner with their partner as the gift they'd most like to receive, while less than 1 percent chose an expensive handbag or perfume as their top gift. Even fewer picked a kids-free night or weekend, or having a month's worth of clean laundry done by someone else.

Romance even tops sex! (Sorry, fellas.) Only 4 percent of women chose sex every night of the week as their No. 1 Valentine's Day gift -- although 21 percent put nightly sex as their second or third choice, with 53 percent said that making love on Valentine's Day was important to them.

Jenny Ingram, an iVoice on iVillage, mother of three and blogger, says she'd pick a romantic dinner out with her husband over a night out with the girls. "I would prefer a dinner out with my husband because for my birthday, I go out with the girls," she says with a big smile. "And he just needs time with me. I know it's good for him."

MY THOUGHTS

romance should never be allowed to die. it's what keep relationships and marriages intact. give me a dozen roses wrapped in newspapers anytime.

Funny Valentine's Day Quotes

Funny Valentine's Day Quotes
Laughter Makes Evergreen Relationships: Read Funny Valentine's Day Quotes

By Simran Khurana, About.com Guide

Lovers who share a sense of humor, stay together longer. Humor is the key to an evergreen relationship. If you want to win your lover's heart, use humor. With a dash of humor and love, make your day extra special with these funny Valentine's Day quotes.

* Helen Rowland
A bride at her second wedding does not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting.

* Groucho Marx
Behind every successful man is a woman, behind her is his wife.

* Mickey Rooney
Get married early in the morning. That way, if it doesn't work out, you haven't wasted a whole day.

* Rita Rudner
I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

* Tracy Smith
I wanted to make it really special on Valentine's Day, so I tied my boyfriend up. And for three solid hours I watched whatever I wanted on TV.

* Francis Bacon
It is impossible to love and be wise.

* Ally McBeal
It’s funny how we set qualifications to the right person to love, when we know at the back of our heads the person whom we truly love will always be an exception.

* Mirabeau
Love has the power of making you believe what you would normally treat with the deepest suspicion.

* Plato
Love is a grave mental disease.

* Hoosier Farmer
Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots.

* Rita Rudner
My boyfriend and I broke up. He wanted to get married and I didn't want him to.

* Phyllis Diller
Never go to bed mad -- stay up and fight.

* Joyce Brothers
No matter how love sick a woman is, she shouldn't take the first pill that comes along.

* Oscar Wilde
One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry.

* Margaret Atwood
The Eskimos have fifty two words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love.

* Ann Landers
The poor wish to be rich, the rich wish to be happy, the single wish to be married, and the married wish to be dead.

* Yiddish Proverb
Three things can't be hidden: coughing, poverty, and love.

* H. L. Mencken
To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia.

* Jay Leno
Today is Valentine's Day. Or, as men like to call it, Extortion day.

* Erich Segal
True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.

* Anonymous
Valentine’s Day is when a lot of married men are reminded what a poor shot Cupid really is.

* Rosanne Barr
Women are cursed, and men are the proof.

* Mae West
Women with pasts interest men. They hope history will repeat itself.

MY THOUGHTS

'my funny valentine, sweet funny valentine...' so goes the song.and indeed, valentines can be funny. love is. i love valentines. especially the funny ones.